If feels very good to give things. Really good! Being on the receiving end can be tricky. Why is that?
In the last couple of weeks something has surfaced in my life that is having an impact. One of my close friends called to tell me that she had found a lump in her breast. At that point she was very worried but had no information. Within the last couple of weeks she has been through tests and procedures. She has breast cancer. She is scheduled for surgery in early May.
I spent hours on the phone with her through these last couple of weeks and I did it with a completely open heart. I love being there for her. I don’t always know what to do or if I say the best thing or if the best thing is to say nothing and just listen. I am sure that both are needed. It is a dance we are in. I may not always be graceful but my love is there and I am fully present. In so many ways it is a huge gift to me that she has invited me to be part of this challenge in her life. I am honored.
I will give her whatever I can. I will do this unconditionally.
We are lucky to have a close circle of women that have been through every kind of thing together: birthing babies, raising kids, divorces, weddings, kids leaving the nest, sickness, health, good times and bad. Through all this, there are still issues with receiving. They are mostly present as an internal process. It is silent and subtle within the group. These issues involve unconditional giving and receiving; being able to ask for help when one needs it. Feeling worthy. Being able to say when something offered is not what is needed. It takes courage, honesty and acceptance. Receiving what is given without any sense that one owes anything in return, ever. EVER.
In this moment, what my friend needs is unconditional love. To be cared for and assisted with a completely open heart.
Thus, I want to say to her…to declare to her these things:
I will give to you whatever I can as long as it feels right to me in my own heart.
I do not know what or how much that is, but whatever I am able to give, I will not hold back what my heart tells me to offer.
You may turn me away. You may tell me you do not need what I offer and I will love you still completely.
You may ask me for anything. I will respond with love.
You don’t have to ask me for anything and I will respond with love. I have no expectations of what is going to happen, of what you will need or not need.
You may ask someone else. You may replace me. I have no attachment to being involved. I love you in any case.
You may call me any time, day or night.
NO matter how much I give….how much time…how much energy…how much anything, you will never owe me anything in return. Never. Ever. This is completely unconditional.
Why?
because I love you.
because you are worthy.
because you know what you need
because you know how to get where you want to go
because you are wise
because you are capable
because you are free.
because I see all the parts of you in a dance of being and becoming.
Because you are ME!
Sue
Heart of Prosperity
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